Series 1 – Episode 31: Discover how Powerlessness is at the root of all toxicity in our relationships & what we can do to balance power, no matter who is causing it. Julia Seal shows you how to find your Inner Power, tapping into the magic of what you can do about others’ toxic behaviours: if you’re the Victim, if you’re the Persecutor AND if you are a manager, HR executive & have to intervene in unhealthy conflict. No more Kindergarten conflict behavior!
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Questions, Answers & Insights
In this Q&A for our negative emotions coaching journey, we look at Inner Power and Powerlessness: what to do to balance power and when to intervene in unhealthy conflict and toxic behaviours at home and work.
We discover why powerlessness is at the root of all this toxicity and what we can do about it – for ourselves and for others.
Firstly, Coach Julia Seal, looks at exactly what’s happening in our brains when we’re in relationships where power is abused, exploring what’s happening whether we are Victims or Persecutors. This guides us to use the best response of all, taking The High Road, balancing the power. Here, we discover the magic of the whole thing: we need be the only ones to do this, no matter who is indulging in Contempt, Criticism, Blame, Defensiveness or Stonewalling!
How to find our Inner, rather than external, Power leads us to a step-by-step process of building Inner Power and practicing it every day – how to coach our own powerlessness, using our Coaching Tools to support you.
Then, Julia looks at powerlessness and what to do if you’re a manager or HR and have to intervene to “sort out that difficult person”. She explains how to intervene in unhealthy conflict effectively from a coach’s perspective that includes some intriguing ideas: cleaning up the inside of your brain, getting yourself to neutral, activating your inner wisdom as well as the power of role-modeling and the art of invitation into change. You can end Kindergarten-like conflict behaviour!
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, Gandhi, Donald Rumsfeld, Socrates, Scottish band Runrig and South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission add further insight into this last episode on coaching our negative emotions, our unhappiness and how to FEEL better.
” May you be Happy, May you be Free – there is no better time to coach together!”
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WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVERIN THIS EPISODE
- How powerlessness is at the root all our toxicity in our emotions and our relationships
- Who we are in the Drama Triangle of Toxicity – when we’re Victims or Persecutors
- What’s happening in our brains when we are Victims and Persecutors
- What do to about our powerlessness and that of others – the magic of what we can do in any situation – the best response of all
- The difference between Inner Power and External Power and where to find our Inner Power
- What to practice every day to build our Inner Power as a skill – how to coach our own powerlessness
- When to intervene in conflict – as a manager, leader or HR executive
- How to intervene in conflict effectively from a coach’s perspective from cleaning up the inside of your brain, getting to neutral, activating inner wisdom, the power of role-modeling and the art of invitation into change
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- Episode Links
- Insight Series: Coaching your Negative Emotions
- Episode #1.17 – Unhappy is the story of Happy
- Episode #1.18 – Unhappy, what to do about it?
- Episode #1.19 – Coaching your Unhappiness
- Episode #1.20 – Negative Emotions & Emotional Intelligence
- Episode #1.21 – Emotional Immaturity & your Happiness Wisdom
- Episode #1.22 – Happiness is 50:50, always!
- Episode #1.23 – Are you Buffering your happiness away?
- Episode #1.24 – Are you Anti-fragile? Courageous?
- Episode #1.25 – Your next step, Evolution!
- Episode #1.26 – How to FEEL better now!
- Episode #1.26.Q&A – How to FEEL better now!
- Episode #1.27 – Coach Yourself on Fun at Work Day!
- Episode #1.28 – Menopause at Work: coaching your negative emotions
- Episode #1.29 – Toxic emotions at work – what to do (Part 1)
- Episode #1.30 – Toxic emotions at work – what to do (Part 2)
- Supporting Coaching Tools
- Overview of this coaching journey ahead Overview – Coaching Your Negative Emotions
- Quotes for unhappiness coaching journey
- 3-Long-Strong Breaths
- High Road : Low Road
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